Darwin’s theory, Survival of the Fittest, is the perfect ‘excuse’ for competition and doing what it takes to win. Darwin would have likely had a slightly different definition focused on ‘Fittest’. The better an organism’s qualities and talents ‘FIT’ a competitive situation, the more likely that organism will survive and thrive.
Not every individual is a good fit for every situation. Competing to win is a waste of energy and talents when the fit isn’t there. It’s a lot like finding a great fitting pair of jeans.
Embrace the challenge of finding what FITS.
Explore and experience many fitting rooms to uncover your assets for their best fit.
A good pair of jeans promotes your genes – allows you to be most comfortable to share and grow your talents!
It’s more than just thinking about which jeans fit and fit best. It’s understanding that each of us is like a puzzle piece and completes a bigger picture. Just like any puzzle, not all pieces fit in the same pic to complete all pictures. Think about when you say: ‘WOW’ I just fit ‘here’ perfectly – or you say that another person fits you perfectly!
Sure, we can make jeans ‘FIT’ by stuffing ourselves into them, or, wearing shape-wear (the horrible things we do to ourselves to ‘fit’). Or, just keep looking and find a pair that is comfy and we can move around in.
Forcing FIT, and competing in situations which don’t match our talents and skills is a recipe for conflict and imbalance.
If I feel like I have to compete to get noticed in a puzzle I know I don’t fit it, I get mean – and that meanness is usually at myself: I overeat, watch too many movies, or shop for things I’ll regret buying.
Mostly I overeat…. which makes my jeans not ‘FIT’, the perfect metaphor for not fitting… why do we humans do this????
Meanwhile, here in Western culture, we’re constantly told we should be like someone else, like a brother, cousin, celebrity. No wonder we need to shop for so many pairs of jeans, constantly looking for that ‘FIT’ that is us. Yet, in the fitting room are pairs of jeans to try on suggested by influencers, celebrities, and the same people who tell us we should be someone different…
In contrast, the Blackfoot Indians believe we are born ‘whole’ and already ‘FIT’, then spend their lives perfecting that FITTEST. Certainly something we can learn from.
In Blackfoot culture, “it’s like you’re credentialed at the start. You’re treated with dignity for that reason, but you spend your life living up to that.” While Maslow saw self-actualization as something to earn, the Blackfoot see it as innate.Jun 18, 2021
The Blackfoot Wisdom that Inspired Maslow’s HierarchyResilience.orghttps://www.resilience.org › Teju Ravilochan
Sure, we can fit anywhere…
Like any situation, job, etc. we can find jeans that FIT, or adapt to them. Which is more comfortable?
Same as for any job, relationship, friendship, home, etc. etc. etc.
It’s too easy to settle for what doesn’t fit. If you’re in this situation be honest about why you are ‘there’ and then think about how you can fit better – or find a new puzzle picture to complete.
Your ‘FIT’ is about your best, not being better than others who wear totally different pairs of jeans – look better in them.
BUT, remember there’s a pair of jeans you wear perfectly. That’s your fittest.
Explore lots of fitting rooms and find how your genes can promote your jeans – or it how your jeans can promote your genes???
So go ahead, grab a handful of experiences in life’s fitting room and figure out what ‘FITs’. Toss out what doesn’t fit! It’s the only way to thrive and you deserve that!
Human Nature Concepts 